Just mind your own business

 

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It seems like everywhere you turn, someone is being mom-shamed.  Whether it’s Jessica Simpson for posting a picture of her daughter in a bikini on Instagram, or the mom down the road for getting her kid a happy meal for dinner, mom shaming is rampant and real.

Mom Shamer examples:
You took your 8 year old to a PG-13 movie??
You let your children use electronics when they are out to eat??
You let your kid eat happy meals/cereal/ice cream for dinner??
You let your kid have (insert sugary beverage) kool aid, juice, soda??
You pack your child a Lunchable for his school lunch??
You let your child sleep in your bed??
You let your kids stay up until 10pm??
You spank your child??

Before you judge someone, ask yourself this question:  Is anyone in imminent danger?   If the answer is no, then mind your own business!

I know my kid better than you.

Maybe I let him play the ipad at the restaurant because that was his reward for getting 100 on his math test.
Maybe he’s eating a happy meal for dinner because it’s his birthday and that’s what he chose.
Maybe he drinks juice because that’s the only way he will consume fruit.
Maybe he sleeps in my bed because he has night terrors.
Maybe he goes to bed at 10pm because his dad works the night shift and doesn’t get home until 9:30.

OR… maybe I don’t have any “good” reason at all.  Maybe I let my kid eat a happy meal for dinner because I think it’s OK to have a happy meal every once in a while.  Or maybe it’s because I just didn’t have time to make dinner.  Maybe I let him drink juice because he likes it.  Maybe I let him play his ipad when we’re out to dinner because it keeps him quiet and makes a more enjoyable evening for all of us.  Maybe I let him go to bed at 10pm because it has never caused a problem.

It boils down to this:

You don’t know me, you don’t know my life, you don’t know my kid like I do.
I’m in the best position to make decisions about my child.  Not you.

What works for your child and your family may not work for mine.
We are all individuals and there is not a one size fits all solution to parenting.

No one is a parenting expert.  Not me, not you.   Your way is not better or more righteous than mine.  My way is not better or more righteous than yours.

If your child is happy, healthy, and well adjusted, keep doing what you’re doing. Let your child sleep in your bed, have kool aid at dinner and stay up until 10pm.
Why?  Because it’s working.  It’s working for you, for him, and for your family.

We don’t have to agree on parenting strategies.  We don’t have to agree on screen time or bedtimes or how we discipline our children.  You do it your way, and I’ll do it mine.  It’s OK to take different paths.

Parenting is hard.  The last thing we need is judgment.  Let’s support each other.  Let’s lift one another up instead of tearing one another down.

–K

P.S.  And mind your own business!

Friday Favorites- Rainy Day Activities!

Well friends, we’re in the home stretch!

At approximately 11:20 am next Thursday, I will be the mother of a 2nd grader! All week long the remnants of what was first grade have been trickling home…the art folder, completed workbooks, name cards, reading journals. Homework has been non-existent.  Bed times have been getting later and later.   Summer vacation is so close we can smell it!

Summer is awesome.  Being outside is awesome.   Pools and parks and lakes are awesome.  But what about those summer days when the rain won’t stop, you’re stuck inside, and your kids’ eyeballs are about to pop out of their heads from all the screen time they’ve been soaking up??  Do you put on Despicable Me for the 100th time?  Do you hide in the bathroom until bedtime?  Well, you could.  I wouldn’t judge.  Or… you could try one of my 5 favorite rainy day summer vacation ideas!

#1 Indoor Camping
Pop  a tent in your living room, eat hot dogs on a stick, bake up some oven S’mores, play camping bingo, make a cute craft (see below) and tell scary stories.  Don’t forget your sleeping bag, comfy pillow and a flashlight!

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#2 Kids’ Book Club
Pick a fun book, and do a whole theme day around it!
Let’s say you choose Dragons Love Tacos.  Read the book to your kids.  Make tacos for lunch and let the kids help.  Try different types of salsas and have your kids rate them.  Have a dragon printable for your kids to color.   Make a taco topping word search.   Make a fire breathing dragon craft (check out this awesome one HERE).  Use your imagination… the options are endless!

#3  Dance Party
Turn your living room into a kid-friendly club!  Your dance floor should be complete with balloons (who doesn’t love a dance floor with balloons?!), bubbles (just let the kids blow a few bubbles indoors… they’ll love it!), glow sticks and glow necklaces (don’t forget to turn down the lights and pull the blinds for the full effect).  Set up a small table with punch and cookies, turn on Radio Disney and viola!

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#4  Christmas in July
Pull out your tote of Christmas decorations and get busy!  Decorate your bookshelves, fireplace mantle or windowsill.  Have any plants?  Decorate them with some Christmas balls!  Listen to a Christmas CD.  Make Christmas cookies.   Have your kids write out their Christmas lists and a letter to Santa asking how his summer vacation is going.

#5  Rock Painting
Rock painting is back in style!   Grab some rocks and paint and let your inner artist shine!  Paint a crazy design or pretty scene.  Paint a special message.  Paint your rock into a lady bug or bee!  There is some AMAZING rock art out there!  Once the rocks have dried and the rain has stopped, head to the park and leave the rocks in special places for someone else to find.

What are some of your favorite rainy day activities?

Enjoy your weekend friends, and Happy Father’s Day!

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Saturday in NYC

This year I have been on a quest to focus a little more on ME and do things that make me happy.  One thing that makes me happy is spending time with my girlfriends!  I am trying to schedule a girl’s night (or day) every couple months.  It’s great to get a few hours away from the kids and the stress of mommying, and just let my hair down and relax with my ladies!

Saturday we had an awesome girl’s day in NYC!
We had coffee in Bryant Park.  The weather was gorgeous!

      

Went to lunch at Dos Caminos

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And saw Charlie and the Chocolate Factory on Broadway!


Charlie and the Chocolate Factory was great, and I definitely recommend it if you’re a fan of the movie.  The sets were great, the Oompa Loompa were AWESOME and the man playing Willie Wonka was perfect!  There are some fresh takes on the characters and a few variations to the story line, but it’s the same general premise as the movie.  It’s good for adults AND kids (there were FAR more adults there than children, so if you don’t have kids, don’t feel weird about going.  It’s truly for everyone!).

After the show, we sat in Bryant Park sipping iced coffees and waiting for our bus to arrive.   And that’s when it happened.  I barely felt it, but I KNEW.  A quick swipe of my hand to my head confirmed it.  A damn bird pooped in my hair!
Thankfully my friend Sommer quickly cleaned the poo out of my hair and no one was the wiser!  You can bet I showered and washed my hair as soon as I got home!

All in all, it was a great day with great friends and just what I needed to refresh my soul!  Music, food, and friends.  Is there anything better?

What are some of your favorite things to do with your girlfriends?

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Friday Favorites- 5 Summer Movies

Nothing says summer time like a Blockbuster movie!  I mean, flip flops, beach balls and margaritas say summer too, but hopping in the pick up truck and hitting the drive in on a hot summer night is just quintessential summer.

You won’t find my top 5 summer movies at the drive in anymore, but you CAN find them on Bluray, DVD, Netflix or even (insert gasp) VHS!!

So pop some popcorn, pour a glass of lemonade or iced tea, and get ready to be entertained!

1. What About Bob
I know I’m in the minority here, but I LOVE this movie!  It’s my go-to “get me in the mood for summer” comedy.  If you’re looking for something deep and meaningful, this isn’t the movie for you.  But if you’re looking for something light with lots of laughs, check it out!  Warning:  You will absolutely want to visit Lake Winnipesaukee, NH after seeing this movie!

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2.  Vacation
Raise your hand if you wish there was a real Wally World you could go to this summer! This movie cracks me up every time (and I have seen this no less than 100 times).  If you’ve never seen this movie, you MUST.   Everyone needs a little Clark Griswold and cousin Eddie in their life!

3.  Stand By Me
Such a good movie that makes me feel all the feels.  And with the childhood versions of River Phoenix, Will Wheaton, Cory Feldman and Jerry O’Connell, how can you go wrong?!
Confession:  I had a crush on Cory Feldman back in the day.  I would just like to thank Tiger Beat magazine for all the great pin-ups you provided me with.  Even though my mom was really mad at all the tack holes I put in my wall, I was in heaven with my 365 degree view of Cory.

4.  Field of Dreams
Even if you don’t like baseball, you need to watch this movie.  The message is so much bigger than baseball.  It’s about love, family, and following your dreams.  “If you build it, he will come!”

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5.  Independence Day
Because sometimes your summer needs a little Will Smith, hostile aliens, and the potential annihilation of the human race!

 

Honorable Mention:
The Burbs- Tom Hanks and creep neighbors.  Need I say more?
Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants–   Man, I really wanted to be Lena!
Dirty Dancing– Because, DUH!!

 

What are your all-time favorite summer movies??

 

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Summer Reading List!

I’ve been slacking a bit on my reading this past month, but now that summer is here, I promise to be back on my reading game!  Today I wanted to share with you my summer reading list!

1. The Hypnotist’s Love Story
I’ll be honest, I wasn’t planning on reading this book.  I LOVE Liane Moriarty but this one didn’t really appeal to me.  However, since I’ve read every other one of her books, and I’m really craving some more Liane, I am going to give it a try.

2. The Couple Next Door
“May and Nico seem to have it all: a loving relationship, a wonderful home and their beautiful baby, Cora. But one night, when they are at a dinner party next door, their daughter goes missing…”

3. Secrets in Summer
“The queen of beach books” (The Star-Ledger) returns to the shores of Nantucket in a novel about one memorable summer when flirtations flourish, family dramas play out, and scandalous secrets surface.


4.  Everything We Left Behind
I cannot wait to get my hands on this book!!  The release date is July 4th, and I’ve had it pre-ordered since March.  This is the sequel to Everything We Keep which I LOVED!


5. My Name is Lucy Barton
This will be my first Elizabeth Strout book.  I wasn’t sure if I should start with this one or Oliver Kitteridge.  Who else has read Elizabeth Strout?  Am I in for a treat or should I scrap this from my list?

 

I can’t wait to check out what everyone else is reading!  Let me know what you think of my list…  any additions or deletions?

Happy reading!